Take the time.........

The last session of the day....was lovely...and yet the one thing that kept ringing like bell in my head was......It's usually about feeling special, feeling loved. We do ask ourselves invariably " when was the last time I felt special or loved by someone". It's a beautiful feeling, when the soul feels appreciated, loved, hugged, felt special etc. But we end up looking for this feeling outside us, we start looking for happiness out there. For a lot many, it's acceptance that this is the life it is meant to be and it's more like resigning to fate. And one fine day...this feeling of deep emptiness crawls up to the core of our being. It's absolutely not out there...its all within us.

The day you start loving yourself....the feeling of special-ness ,  will sprite your life up.   Now the question is...do you really Take the time to love yourself, to love the way you are, without judging. The mind has been conditioned from early childhood, to look for happiness outside...it can be a person or an object. You are made to believe, this is what will make you happy, but Ironically in the process you stop  loving yourself. Honestly ask yourself, when was the last time you acknowledged your feeling, and expressed them the way you wanted it to be expressed.

Taking the time ...requires effort...and it takes time but more importantly  you have to take the time to do what you want, to tell what you want, to express yourself. With the busy lives that you lead, doing what you love doing or doing what is needed to be done..or simply doing nothing.....you get so caught up , that rarely do you take time out to appreciate your life, to love yourself or others whom you value in your life.

Taking the Time...is one aspect...that is categorically taken for granted, and yet is one of the most important aspect of our life.  I know the list is endless and wouldn't fit into a single post....But if you just put down the list it is this...

Take the time to come home to yourself everyday,
Take the time to love yourself, to express love

Take the time to know yourself, 

Take the time to acknowledge your feelings, 

Take the time to relax,
Take the time to breathe, take the time to feel the calmness within

Take the time to know someone well, to appreciate the people you love
Take the time to listen, take the time to hear
Take the time to laugh

etc....

There is nothing that is most important or least important...it is what it is....., cause each and every person is at different situation, facing different circumstances in their lives at present. 

So is it so difficult to take the time out.....No...it isn't at all....It's only when you, WILL to do it....I mean when you just decide to take the time out...When was the last time you looked at yourself, I mean taken a real good look. and you noticed how wonderful you do smile, and the happiness is shown in your eyes. If you just take the time to notice , you will definitely find something beautiful . For a moment just stop thinking what others think about you. You simply Take the time .....to appreciate what is in you, , even with your flaws , take the time to love yourself. Take the time to know yourself, see the beautiful person that is there in you. Yes....I get to hear this often...." it's been such a long time that someone said something nice, something so beautiful, I miss those moments" ......Hey Sweets!....know one thing..you will be loved for this lifetime and beyond, for now take the time to love yourself first!

Take the time to enjoy the moment that is , that is the NOW...in your life. 

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What is it dear.....

........ that you are still looking for, still searching for, still holding yourself back to make that decision, trying to find the right answer. Every want,every desire, every wish, every intention gets granted or gets done.And yes...it does follow suit and  most of the time, our prayers do get answered. It's all in the perceptions, it's how we perceive things in our life. It's still a perfect world with all the imperfections. Isn't it so!.

Even the five fingers of our hands are not similar, but yet they are in sync with each other..that's how it is . And yet most of the time our mind put's us in a dilemma cause we want to have the perfect solution, the perfect answer.  But do we really find the answers that we are looking for.  Some answers come easily and some answers take time and some don't even see the light of the day. The mind tries to find logic behind every aspect of life. Life comes to a standstill for many of us....when we expect life to be in a certain way, when we expect approval, and when we see the reality is different than what we perceived it to be, we get disappointed. We keep on asking everyone and every one has a different answer to give, based on their own understanding and also what they feel would be appropriate for us.

 .....STOP! wait a minute....just think....what about what you think, what is it that makes you happy, what is it that makes you feel good about your life....When will you start taking decisions or doing things that really matter to you...irrespective of whether you get the approval or not. What about your views, what about your feelings. Or does your views don't matter. Think about it...your views are equally important than what others think about you. Cause you are the one, who will define yourself. This is the time.....nothing is out there , it's all there in you...to make it work....but based on your decision...not on  what others say, the others can help...but it's finally your life, you got be happy eventually in the end. You got to find your own space and be happy wherever you are, then the world is just perfect the way it is and it has always been perfect.

...Try to find the balance, and the answers are right there, its for you to decide whether which goal, which dream, which relationship is worth keeping cause that's where  the answers lies....it's never out there, its always within you....

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Hey lovely Person!...

Yes...am talking to you....who is so lovely, beautiful and amazing . It makes me happy to know you, to have you in my life. I simply adore and respect you, the way you are. There is nothing that I would want to change in you...love you with all the imperfection. But yes...I would like one thing from you .......just trust life a little.

Trust in the divinity of the Universe, trust in the healing powers, trust in the prayers, trust in yourself., ........trust in the deliverance from whatever you are experiencing in your life at this moment. Does this sound so simple,  yes...it is as simple as this. When we start trusting the universe, when we start trusting....something better starts happening..for us and the people around us. There is a shift that starts taking place in the universe.....it might not happen in this instant...but if we simply keep on the trust alive in us,the universe will heals us, give us or  relieve us from whatever it is we are asking from....it will definitely happen.

The Universe will surprise you beyond your imagination,  but trust you must...cause that's the only way..for now. Countless doubts, fears, worries, reservation keep coming...there is no controlling. You tell me " I  have done everything I could, I have tried everything and yet it's not happening ". You keep asking the whys , the whens, the hows...I can feel the anguish, the pain deep inside in your heart.  It's seems impossible, be it convincing someone, be it getting the project in hand, be it forgiving someone, be it having a good life. You say..".it ain't working for me, so how do I get the trust here". As the proverb goes." It's always darkest before dawn". Just trust life a little more now, cause that's what the universe wants you to do. The universe knows that you are asking or trusting from the abundance that you already have in your life and It is this trust that will lead you to what you wished for in your life.

Even when the uncertainties are looming over your head, know this.....there is something beautiful waiting to happen. Trust this thought, trust the feeling that you get when you have this thought...that's what is going to make the difference, that's what is going to make the shift in the universe for you. Trust that , the moment is going to happen, you are going to be delivered from all this uncertainty, a new chapter is waiting to be opened...but for now you got to trust.......

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Take a Chance........

How would  life be without the chances that we got till now, am sure life would be dull and drag. This isn't a perfect world and we are not perfect people and we all need chances. I am at my nth number of second chance right now and I am not ashamed to admit it. I have failed a lot, but I have tried a lot too. We rarely get things right for the first time. Our life starts with a decision to try again and again and give another shot to the failed attempt. It's normal to make mistakes, we learn and we grow and take a chance again.

A chance......Simply said or asked...what a lovely word is this! It acts as an adrenaline pull for everyone and including me. If life gives us a chance again, what would we do......Just this thought is enough and it even sounds so beautiful....yes ! this is exactly what comes to my mind. A chance to be happy, a chance to make a difference, a chance to live life all over again, a chance to get back on feet, a chance to Love again....a chance to say Sorry, a chance to Forgive , a chance to say Thank you, a chance to Forget, a chance to live Life on its own term, a chance to Celebrate, a chance to Move ahead , a chance to Let Go, a chance to learn something New , a chance to make things Work, a chance to renew wows, a chance to renew relationships., a chance to be strong......there's so much to this word....every second of our life we are given a chance. 

There is fear, apprehension, skepticism, yet we do need to take the chance to know what life is once we take the chance, perform the action and be complete with it. Yes I understand! It's not easy at all . We often forget that if trying to find that certain someone or something is a tiring process, we have the right to stop. It's often the chasing, what was once a vital part of our lives. But by no means , are we allowed to deny ourselves the chance to be happy , in fear of being hurt again.  And also more important is never give yourself a chance to fall apart , because when you do , it becomes a tendency and it happens over and over again.

So when do we know whether there is a chance available or when do we know we can take a chance...its a matter of choice..but the beautiful fact is this... a chance is available every single second....its only a matter of our willingness to take the chance. So what are we waiting for, who are we waiting for....etc....chance is already there all the time..in front of us, we just have to take the STEP.

Am taking my baby steps to walk back again and move towards the life I want. Each one of us  has the chance to be happy again.....Just Take A Chance!

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The Gracefulness of Serenity........

The Serenity that I feel at the moment is as blissful as this man sitting by the lake. The mind is at peace, even when I am feeling ever expanding ripples caused by events happening within me and around me. The ripples are just  a way of life, which only gives us an experience to learn from. The way things are at the moment, there is no urgency to to reach anywhere, to be in a certain way, to please someone, to be someone. I am simply at peace with myself and where I am at the moment. The stillness that I feel within even in the midst of the waiting, the uncertainty is beautiful. A sense of calmness has set in, was this the way I felt earlier...I might have but I have just started to notice it more so lately.

Life is just the way it is, simple , beautiful , adventurous,  interesting , delightful etc....one can simply go on adding different adjectives. And yet when we look at our wants , desires, wishes; and we ask ourselves when will things start getting done, getting accomplished, that's the time we start losing the moment that is there to cherish. Desires , wants make up our lives, but that's only the part of our life not the whole of who we are. There are things we want to achieve, there are things that we want to feel, want to have, things that we desire. The list is endless, the list is way for us to feel good, to feel worthwhile. It's important to have a certain degree of security, a certain amount of accomplishment, a certain amount of worthiness. Cause that's what gives us a sense of who we are, where we are, what makes us happy, what makes us feel good.

But Life always brings with it a certain amount of uncertainties. Uncertainties can be in the form of unexpected , unwanted turn of events in life. Be it a personal loss, a relationship gone sour , a heartbreak, a disease, an accident, a deal not gone through,  financial losses..there can be plenty of uncertainties that one can think of.  And in this midst we start caring about people's approval, we become prisoner for life. Once we start chasing something, our heart  never unclench. And we say" I never expected this to happen , am so devastated".  It's in this moment of crisis, in the moment of upheaval if we simply let go off the injury, the hurt, the pain, the let down, the chase and just do our work and STEP BACK. We are on the path to serenity , which is simply there in us , we simply need to find it .

If we only.........it's for us to find the path that leads to gracefulness in life.

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Deep Down within the Heart.......

Deep Down within the heart.......What do we feel?. Countless emotions come rushing back.... we know exactly what's the feeling within. That's the exact feeling that tell us the truth, the reality as it is. When we feel the deep calmness, about something or someone, we know we are on the right track. It feels good...the feeling of elation and happiness surrounds us. Cause deep down within the heart we feel  that the things are perfect just the way its meant  to be. It doesn't matter whether it's the way we wanted it, but we still feel so good about it. This feeling that we get It's not fake , it is  real. Ponder over the feeling that comes from within..and when we do get a thought..."Is whats happening - is it worth it or not worth it..?"

Don't we all have answers, even when we know that it isn't worth it. The heart keeps beeping back at us about facts. This is our hearts way of asking us to please have a look , recheck, re-evaluate that someone or something in our lives. But are we willing to consider the answer. I doubt. Our attachments are tough to defy and make us look up for the signs,  for the clues.The time is spent in thinking, wanting, hoping, contemplating and stretching.The heart never lets us down, cause it always tells us the truth about how we feel, the way we feel . We know the worthiness of something or someone.

Have you ever poured your life and energy into someone or something even when you knew it wasn't worth it. Were you successful ? and what were the result? If we observe there are countless occasions, when we invest time, money etc....knowing for a fact that it isn't leading us anywhere. And yet we continue  with the hope that things would get better or we can sort it out. There's a lot of stake, when we hold on to something that is not worth...but sometimes the realization comes a little too late.

Around a year back I had a very beautiful relationship....the feeling was sacred, beautiful , and yes with attachment too....I poured my entire life into the relationship.....and I simply kept pouring and pouring....and one fine day....I acknowledged the signs that were coming from deep down within my heart. I sincerely wished for the relationship to work at all cost...all in the hope that it will. When the end came, My sense of loss and grief was real! I realized I couldn't spend more time...because I had tried everything that was in my capacity and it wasn't worth . The time had come to let it go and even though it was hard and painful...it had to be done...

What happens when we discover that we are pouring water into a broken container

Do we get another jar?
Do we fix the jar?
Do we keep pouring?

We hang on to something or someone...for the good memories that we share ...it can be a person or a thing....something so special to us. But there are signs, that keep telling us...that this isn't going ahead. Countless decisions are made to simply fix it, trying to make sense, trying to give sense, this takes up all the energy, the feel good moment is what makes us carry on....Our determination to fix it at all cost, is what most of the time lets us down. Cause we are simply not seeing the signs that's coming from deep within the heart. And we keep on pouring , pouring pouring our life into that something or someone...just to make it work, to fix it. It's unthinkable to imagine life without....

Consider the life that you are leading at the moment..

what or who are you pouring your energy or life into?
what are the returns?
do you like what you see?

Just look deep down within the heart...and you will get all your answers

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The Act of Conversation......

It's been a week long absence from any activity but a break of sorts is good. It is rejuvineting to come back to the scene with a new feeling , with a new thought, with a fresh mind. The aroma of the tea had already filled the room and I wished for the perfect breakfast and there it was right on the table . I sat besides  my parents ......simple things in life and so much to be thankful about.

Just then the bell rang, and we had an unexpected visitor. He too joined us for breakfast, now the conversation moved from personal daily nitty grittys to politics to the bombay life. There were quite a few laughs that we shared during the course of our conversation, some yesteryear memories and etc....... It went on for sometime....good laughs and good memories always have a way with us feeling good all the time.

There is something beautiful and yet intriguing about conversations, some conversations are so subtle, unless you are alert you can just miss the point....some conversations make us think..make us think things over. Some are just plain and simple and yet beautiful and some are just so  unnecessary, that we would rather not have a conversation but yet we do . It can be out of fear, out of avoiding but we just get into the act of conversation.

It's the way we put things across , the way we say things....if we observe the words spoken...by us or others, we get a hang of how the conversation is going. It is interesting to note that usually a conversation depends on the intrinsic relationship or the bond that we share with the other people or the group that we are having the conversation with. The beautiful-ness  in the conversation  comes more deeply when we listen. When we are there to hear the other person out. The sharing of ourselves, our view is integral part of a conversation. The willingness to be there, to understand and carry the conversation forward is a skill, but many a times people have to really stop themselves from interrupting.. the urge is too great to resist. For some it is easier, for some listening is just tough to come.

Some conversations light up the entire room and it's like being a part of a celebration. A feel good moment, to take back with us. And some conversation, just get us into realization ! Oh...this is what it is all about. And we wonder at that moment....how could this slip my mind....it's then the reality dawns. There are people who are waiting to utter something sarcastic or stating the obvious. If its delicately put across, then it helps the conversation to move ahead, if not..then it can only spoil a wonderful  morning or a beautiful evening. Notice the expression that happens while in conversation, it's quite interesting. These expression give us the signs of how we are progressing in our conversation, very few are alert to these signs.

Conversations are a way to grow, a way to heal. Cause its during the course of conversation, we learn so many things about ourselves and others at the same time. It's just not a mere discussion or a debate or a phone call or chat, its more than that. It makes us understand the issue, the field of discussion, the life nitty- gritty's , what people share and what we say to them in those moments..is what defines our conversation. After all a conversation, be it beautiful, good, interesting, or something else remains etched in our minds. So see to it that we do make our conversations interesting enough, so there's an audience to listen to what we have to share and vice versa!

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