The Identity.....

Our identity is what we have with us, and its truly ours.....It is this identity , the perception , the concept of who we think we are , that directs and organizes our beliefs, our core values , our capabilities, actions, and behavior. Everyone of us are unique, it is this uniqueness that drives us to express ourselves creatively with passion.

It's what we stand for, it makes us the person we are, the beautiful, the amazing, the caring, the compassionate, the passionate, the loving, the gorgeous, the trustworthy, the go-getter, the pursuer, the iconic, the legend, the lawyer, the businessman, the therapist, the doctor....the list is endless...We identify with outward expressions of ourselves – our career, our family, our looks, our clothes, our home and possessions, our class, our education – all of these things reveal some aspects of our identity to a certain extent.

Beginning at birth, we lose ourselves in the sheer energy of living - in activity, in people, in beliefs, in should and ought and expectations. But what happens, when we let go off this Identity completely, that is the us, that's what makes you and me.....

Recently on one of my trips outside on my own after I started walking again, I went to visit a friend of mine.   It had been nearly a year since my last visit to her place, Yes, It almost took a year for me to walk again. And there I saw her sitting relaxed comfortably on the chair, waiting for me to join her. I admire her passion, the way she has always been with the kids. Her love for children always shown in her eyes. But this time, it seemed different, something was amiss. I could pinpoint, but I restrained myself. I simply acknowledged her the way I used to for so many years.  The spark in her twinkling eyes seemed missing, and I wondered did she knew it herself.  When we loose ourselves, we simply remain a shadow of our own identity. I looked at her eyes, the pain shown in them now. What happened , that such a passionate lady came to this state...I had my answers right in front and there were some I was wanting to know. 

When we become the shadow of our own identity, when we let go off ourselves, when we give up on ourselves to maintain, to balance our life, our relationship...do we end up loosing our identity...For some YES...they do....come what may, life doesn't seem the same, its different. It's only the others that count, somewhere they take a back seat, they simply follow. Leaving behind, what they actually want from their life, leaving behind their passion . They allow someone else decide for them just so that they can have the relationship or be in the relationship.

Yes...we do take up different roles, pertaining to the situation and the demands that life puts on us. Take a moment, is it really like this....do we really have to loose our identity. Reflect on all the different roles we choose to take on in our life, don't they help us define who we are, some roles invite us to express more of who we really are and some roles don't support us in being us. Nevertheless each role carries within a mission to be fulfilled. But these roles never suggests that we have to forgo what we really love, what we stand for, what inspires us, what makes us the person we want to be and more importantly the Identity that we created for ourselves, the identity that we love so much.

In whatever situation we find ourselves in, we can always preserve and enhance our Identity! We simply decide and get back the self, love the self .. that's all!

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This One Is For You.......

This is only for you, cause you deserve it, and you have been deserving it for such a long time. But  you don't know it yet, and you still don't believe you are deserving of it.

There has never been a perfect time...the perfect time is now, this moment. Well....you must be wondering what is this IT all about....let me tell you....you are truly special, beautiful and chosen one, the one who is so so deserving of Love. Most importantly you are lovable. Yes, yes you are lovable, exactly the way you are...with all your limitations, with all your faults.

This is you, with your likes, dislikes, your wants, intentions and goals. And if things are not happening in your life, if life still seems empty, know that you are still lovable. Nothing changes, irrespective the way you are at this moment.  With life misses, mismatches, adversities,  loneliness , the emptiness, know that you are still and will always be loved beyond anything in this world. No one decides who you are or what you ought to be, its only you who decides.  Acknowledge yourself, know yourself...and forgive for all the wrong things in your life, and know that you are not about all those mistakes, or all those judgement made upon you. Have compassion for your shortfalls, while rejoicing in your gifts. loving yourself , relieves you of self-judgement and self-criticism.You rarely appreciate yourself, or admire yourself for who you are as a person. You are unique in your own way, your experiences have made who you are at this moment.

What would it take for you to know that you are loved , all you got to do is start loving yourself, the way you are. And you will notice the difference that starts happening in your life. Self love is paramount, it is what set us free from everything that keeps us away from what we aspire, what we want in our lives. We often seek out people that mirror our innermost feelings, about ourselves. If we feel undeserving of love,  we will attract people into our lives that are incapable of showing it. When we stop seeking love and look inwards for the love that is already there inside us....it is then that we truly know what is love in the first place...and there is nothing more than this. All the goodness is out there waiting for you to experience  life beautifully.  The difference you start noticing, will not only help you in your relationships, but you will notice a phenomenal change in your outlook towards life, your perceptions about life.

It's nearing the end of a year, why not take this opportunity to focus your attention on this individual self of yours, the true self of being. Start experiencing the love for this self of yours, it will bring deep ease and relief. Knowing this true self of yours and loving it unconditionally is delightful in itself.  What a lovely way to end this year on a beautiful note and Start the Next year...with a renewed You.

A new meaning , a new purpose to look forward to in life.. Isn't it?

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