How does one enjoy family time?
What quality time do we provide our family?
Do we really take the time out?
And is Giving time enough?
Is having meals together only the family time left?
So many questions...and yes plenty of answers, justification etc....some valid, some just over the top and some just not enough. I see around, people do spend time together, family time. With the hectic lives that we lead , to spend time, to remove time becomes a task, but we still do. But is that enough, yes guess so..But most of the time it isn't. So what is that is missing....its the concern behind the thought, do we really understand what is going on in the minds of the people we care so much, we love so much. We are fairly good in understanding the people we care, but rarely do we want to know whats happening in their lives even when we stay under the same roof.
Many a times, I notice people having different dinner times. The elders have their dinners early and the youngster have it late or vice-versa...and all that they do is watch the TV together just before they go to sleep..So is this the family time, we talking about. Probably yes, if that's the only time available. They sit glued, sometime interacting and sometimes not a single word is said..just plain simple watching. And at times the silence is stretched too long....what is it...this silence is suffocating at times or is it simply delaying or giving oneself time to express. And this happens everyday in their lives... It's ironic to see that the TV is the only thing that's binding the family together.
Life is all about sharing our happiness, sorrow, the togetherness, when we are with our loved ones..and its not about simply spending time...but understanding the feelings behind the face, behind the gesture, behind the conversation, behind the disagreements. When someone shares, are we there to listen, are we there for them, in that moment. Agreements and disagreements are a part of our life. Sometimes in due course, we take the family members for granted, we assume and expect things. And yes sometime we are justified too..in demanding things, in expecting them to follow or behave in a certain way. And what if one day they behave differently, how are we going to react. Are we going to lose our head, or are we going to take a step back and think for a moment, why did someone behave like this? what did happen. So are we there to listen to their whispers, to listen to their sighs, to their woes...or simply just listen to what they have to say. Do we really know whats the favorite incident in their lives, what is the scariest moment they have lived, which is the story that inspired them, which is the thing that gets a smile on their face, have they ever felt low , has anyone been bothering them lately, what are the things that they like the most etc......
Its actually simple to be there, to give the quality time., but our busy lives, our disappointments, our disagreements, our prolonging grudges keep us away from the things that needs to be looked at it is to be felt within. Its easy to go off the track. It is in times like this, we have to catch ourselves...know that the time we do spent with our family , is actually a Gift!
2 comments:
Well Said!!!!
have been wanting to write about the family time for a long time....and this is what I have observed in some houses!
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